caleb-carter-pink-shirtJason Sechrest has a few details about a memorial service for the late Caleb Carter. Last night, his friend and fellow porn actor Brent Summers, along with Caleb’s mother, held a celebratory wake Monday night at the Brass Rail in San Diego. There will be a memorial service and cremation burial tomorrow afternoon. Per Mr. Sechrest, Caleb’s death was ruled an intentional suicide. He left no note, although he apparently made an unsuccessful attempt earlier this month. A manic depressive, he had been weaning himself off Paxil and dealing with an addiction to alcohol (most of this I already knew, as he’d spoken about it at some length). He had apparently been drinking when he made the decision to end things. I don’t have anything to add, only that I hate that the last thing most fans will know of Caleb Carter was one terrible, final moment in his otherwise extravagant, colorful life. Well, there’s at least something I can do: I can tell you stories about him, and I will, soon. One other note: I’ve been getting emails from concerned Constant Readers about various shit-talkers on other sites who are criticizing Caleb for his many bad decisions; some of them are taking advantage of the grief of his friends to further their own agenda. Look, Caleb was deeply flawed, and often impossible. I knew that, and so did everyone who loved him, and we didn’t care because he was worth the occasional trouble. He was also a public figure and willingly exposed himself to the ridicule of the hoi polloi. So, really, I don’t give a flying fuck about the shit-talkers and ambulance chasers; some people simply have no compassion, no sense of propriety, no attachment to anything beyond the end of their own nose, and there is nothing to be done about it. As comedian Lewis Black says, “The good die young; assholes live forever.”
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9 Comments so far

  1. Will on February 24, 2009 3:35 pm

    Well said JC.

    I was pretty startled to read today that Caleb had told friends of a recent failed suicide attempt. If that’s true, I find it very troubling. But I won’t make any assumptions about what, if anything, was done to help him. It’s just sad that he was left alone to carry it out successfully.

  2. elmysterio on February 24, 2009 8:40 pm


  3. ricky sinz on February 24, 2009 11:58 pm

    may he rest in peace. and may his family know they are in our thoughts and prayers.
    the good die too young and he will be missed.

  4. iain on February 25, 2009 2:46 am

    The fact is that too many LGBT young people are suffering today from problems which we as a community should be doing more to help, I agree entirely with an earlier posting by Ricky that both the adult industy and all of us as individuals should consider what we can do to help our ‘children’, and as for Caleb, I am sure he is in a much better place and at peace

  5. Seaguy on February 26, 2009 2:02 am

    I think most of the people who keep making totally negative comments about Caleb after his tragic demise are sad pathetic individuals who have no class.

  6. markz on March 15, 2009 12:44 am

    Knowing Caleb and his parents for a little while (and knowing his uncle even better) lead me to speak of the joy, smiles, and energy Caleb brought people and the pain now his family and true friends suffer. Things were done to help him, and Caleb was doing things to help himself. Pray for him and his family. Negativity breeds negativity.

  7. on May 11, 2009 11:24 pm

    There hasnt been a day that has gone by where he hasnt crossed my mind. There was a time when we referred to each other as best friends, despite not being that close. But, that doesnt matter. When we both needed someone to talk to, we knew, if the patience was in hand, we could always talk to one another and find the answers that were needed. This past weekend, I finally wrapped shooting on a film Caleb and I started quite some time ago, entitled THROUPLE. Before his passing, we had briefly talked about finishing it– how I finally had a car again, things were in order, etc… He seemed excited and ready to move onto all of the other projects we had talked about in the past. Just as I had things underway, a mere few weeks later, I found out about his passing… the thought hasn’t left me since. In complete honesty, in some weird turn of events, it became the act that pushed me further to finish the film. I know it isnt as we imagined. But, I think he would find some humor in how the film turned out… I miss him… I find myself beating myself up for the times we didnt talk, etc. I can safely say, Caleb has changed my life… I really wish there was a way to turn back time. He had his problems, just as we all did, but all in all he was an amazing person… to all of you who keep bashing things left and right, do us all a favor and step away…

  8. Raji6 on January 1, 2011 11:17 pm

    8 Comments so farWell said JC.I was pretty startled to read today that Caleb had told friends of a recent failed suicide attempt. If that

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